We did it! We finally went on a date night. It’s been seven-plus weeks since the two of us were well, just the two of us. Any new parent knows that dating doesn’t happen often. Heck, leaving the house within the first couple of months is a well-known task. It becomes difficult to focus on anything other than kids, but I believe that a happy marriage makes for happy parents and happy parents make for happy children.
Five Benefits of Date Night
1. Better Communication
A night out together can open up the lines of communication and communication can help deepen the understanding of one another and the relationship. New experiences in life help us grow as individuals, so it’s good to keep our partners in the know.
2. Increases Relationship Quality
Researchers discovered that “couples who engage in novel activities that are fun, active or otherwise arousing – from hiking to dancing to travel to card games – enjoy higher levels of relationship quality.” Choose activities that each of you enjoys. You may be surprised at how much you’re into something new.
3. Adds Romance
Date nights may strengthen or rekindle that romantic spark that’s been missing. Remember how flirty you were when you first started dating? Date nights are the perfect time/place to get touchy. Holding hands not only decreases the stress hormone, cortisol, but it can also increase the love hormone, oxytocin.
4. Strengthens Commitment
Date nights can strengthen a sense of commitment. A report found that “Partners who put one another first, who steer clear of other romantic opportunities and who cultivate a strong sense of ‘we-ness’ or togetherness are markedly happier than are less-committed couples.”
5. Relieves Stress
Sure, it can be a fun night out, but a one-on-one with little distraction is an excellent opportunity to give emotional support to one another.
Make time for “together time.” Scheduling dates in advance can be the best way to actually make it happen. It allows you to make any necessary arrangements for childcare, time to find a cute outfit but most importantly, it will give you something to look forward to. The build-up of anticipation may even give you those mid-week butterflies.
Which now leads me to the Date Night Challenge. Up for it? Pick from a date below and tell me about it.
- How much fun it was
- What surprised you?
- How it made you feel